The death of a loved one can be one of the most traumatic experiences a person can ever have. Since the loss of my Stepmother in 2013 my life has been a struggle of emotions little did I know from October of 2016 through December 2017 our lives would be rattled.
I learned having to process how life will be without your loved one can feel overwhelming, especially if it is the first time you’ve experienced the loss of a loved one before. Here five ways to cope with the death of a loved one will help you navigate through this difficult time and help you to remember your loved one without becoming mired in grief.
1) Give Yourself Time To Grieve
Every person is different and some people may take years to overcome a death, while others take less time. No matter how long it takes, you need to remember to give yourself time to grieve and heal. There will be instances in your day-to-day life where you’d normally turn to that loved one–for support or care–and realize that they’re no longer with you and it will be hard to deal with. Death is overwhelming for those living through the aftermath, so understand that coping comes with time. Be sure that you don’t rush through processing your grief, or put up a front to make other people happy. The only thing that matters is your mental health and healing, regardless of how long that takes.
2) Surround Yourself With What You Love
It might feel hard to enjoy yourself when you’re processing the death of a loved one, but one of the best things you can do to keep from falling into despair is to surround yourself with what you love. This can be people, objects, or even experiences, but what’s important is to spend time doing things that make you feel happy. You might experience guilt while practicing this step and that is natural, but you don’t need to be bogged down by it. Your loved one would want you to go on enjoying life, despite their death, so remember this and remember to appreciate the good moments you still have now.
3) Make Time For Exercise
Exercising can be a major challenge for those who are coping with a death, but it is important. Exercise releases endorphins that make you feel better, so getting out of your home and into the gym or into nature will go a long way to helping you process your grief. Grab a friend and get moving. Try not to let yourself stagnate in your home, alone, as the inclination will be hard to overcome. Death makes everything feel more challenging so you might have to fight to implement this step, but it is important to make sure to take care of yourself after a death. Grief will tear you down if you let it, and exercise is a great way to combat the impact that grief can have on your life.
4) Make New Memories In New Places
A great way to cope with the death of a loved one is by making new memories in new places. You don’t have to travel far, but often getting out of your home or even your neighborhood can go a long way in helping you to let go of your grief. At first, you might be inclined to surround yourself with places and things that remind you of your loved one, and this is natural and fine. But if you find that you feel smothered under the weight of your memories, striking out and having new experiences can help. Traveling helps you to remember that the world is a beautiful place, even in the face of grief, and helps you build new memories that you can treasure. You don’t have to forget your loved one, but allowing yourself to live your life without constant sadness is key to helping you cope.
5) Remind Yourself That Your Feelings Are Valid
No matter what you’re feeling, be it grief, anger, acceptance or anything else, your feelings are valid. Coping with the death of a loved one is a traumatic experience and there is no one way to process it all. Some days, you might be sad, and other days you’ll feel happy. You might even be angry at your loved one for dying, which is very common. Death is a permanent separation from not only a person but a way of life that predates their death. Live is changed by death and the living use a variety of methods and feelings to cope with this truth. Every feeling you have during your coping phase is valid. Acknowledge your feelings and allow yourself time to feel whatever you need to in order to cope with the death of a loved one.
These five ways to cope with the death of a loved one can help you manage your grief without falling into despair. Losing a loved one is a horrible experience, but you do not have to suffer alone. Utilize these five tips on your journey to recovery and remember that your feelings, experiences, and memories are valid. There is no one way to cope with grief, but these strategies can set you on the path to healing.
Rest Peacefully” Our Loved Ones 2010, 2013, 2016-2017
June (My Stepfather)
Daisy ( My Stepmother)
Chris (My Older Brother)
Jeff Sr. (King Thrifty’s Dad)
Chee-Chee (King Thrifty’s Grandmother)
Pam (King Thrifty’s Cousin)
Mr. Wilson (My Uncle)
During times of darkness, your light will shine upon us your smiles will never be forgotten. Your love will always be present in our lives along with positive memories.